It's magical...there are butterflies in your stomach....fireworks in the sky.....and whenever you look into each other's eyes, you just melt, because you're so in love.
The problem is when you grow up, it's not exactly like that. Here's some facts about the online dating world these days....
http://www.onlineschools.org/blog/online-dating/
Scary stats, right? I've known a couple people to have met their significant other through an online dating site, but that's just 2 people!
The reality is, dating is hard. It is no Disney movie, that's for sure. So, people have gotten creative over time and so began online dating, blind dates, bar hook-ups, watching a movie in a guy/girl's dorm room, etc.
I think the problem is our world today. We are so driven by our careers that we leave love and relationships by the wayside. Our careers take over and we forget to look our partner in the eyes and say I love you and mean it, not just say because you say it every day, but because when you say it means so much more than those three little words. It means, I am so in love with you, I want nothing more than to stand here with you and cherish this moment. Cheesy, right? Not to me! I may be a very educated, career-driven woman, but I still crave those romantic movie moments.
I look at my grandparents, married over 50 years. WOW! I couldn't even keep a man in love with me long enough to stay married to me for more than a year and a half. [this is not meant to be a boo hoo moment for me...it's to prove a point about marriage today] Of course, many of us know the statistic (and we never want to think it could happen to us).....50% of marriages end in divorce. EEK! Now I'm a statistic.
It has been over two years since my divorce now. Do I ever want to get married again? Of course. But...if I've learned anything, it's to not settle on mediocre feelings. That sounds awful. I loved my ex - very much, but we weren't right for each other and I think deep down we knew that. Some couples just reach a point in their relationship when they know it's not right, but some opt to move forward together, for various reasons. The most common is because they've been together this long, why start all over again with someone new? That seems like more work, doesn't it?
The problem I see in some of the women I know who have fallen victim to this situation....of getting "stuck" in a relationship, is that they have forgotten about the Prince Charming they were looking for....the love they were in search of in the first place. So, they settle on something that is comfortable and easy. That might be okay for some people, but not me. To me, that is like giving up on your dream.
Now, there are other women out there that their expectations, their "dream" is so big that no man will ever be able to make it come true. There needs to be a balance, ladies.
The important thing is to be honest with yourself. Don't deny yourself of the love you are looking for...that YOU need.
I like this quote (I guess it's from 16 and Pregnant)...
"Never make a permanent decision on temporary feelings."
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