Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Precious

This is one of the most precious things I have ever seen. I just had to share. Watch the video....it will melt your heart.

http://www.ourhappilyeverafters.com/2011/06/theres-just-something-about-that-name.html

I love you's

I love the I love you's Matt and I exchange between text messages, phone calls, emails, cooking together, snuggling on the couch, and our walks with Ellie.

OK, I know. You can stop gagging now.

My heart is just so happy these days. A happiness that makes your heart race and your cheeks hurt from smiling so much is the best kind of happiness. It's because of love. If you haven't experienced love...true love, that is what you have to look forward to. When you can't stop thinking about the other person, you smile so much people wonder what you're up to, and your heart smiles (you didn't know it could do that?). Love is when you are able to forget all the hurt you've experienced and let go of the past.

Every life event serves a purpose. God leads us to where we are supposed to be. While I have been hurt in the past, I remember, If God brings me to it, He will bring me through it. When I thought I wouldn't survive, I did...and met someone who loves me for me...unconditionally.

I never take the I love you's we share for granted. Each one is precious. My grandma who has been married to my grandpa for nearly 50 years shared their secret.....never say goodbye without saying I love you and always kiss each other like you mean it (no 2 second peck as you rush out the door). A meaningful kiss is important and should be cherished in a marriage.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Jamaica 'mon

My brother, Mark, is having a destination wedding in Jamaica in March 2012. I was asked to stand up in the wedding, so Matt and I are Jamaica bound.

We officially paid our deposit and booked our flights today. We are ecstatic to go!

It has been a few years since I last took a real vacation. I'm looking forward to this trip with Matt and to get away from our busy everyday lives for a few days. Ahhh....to relax will be pure bliss.

AND...I'm SO excited for my brother and Amanda! It's going to be a gorgeous wedding. Love love love!

We are going to Sandals Whitehouse.....


Masquerade

My church is doing a series called, "Masquerade." It's about the masks we all wear to hide the things we don't want others to see. The secrets we keep, the feelings we hide, the shame or fear we cover up....It has been very enlightening for me and I have learned so much.

Here are a few passages shared Sunday during the sermon that really touched me....

[Acts 3:19] Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.

[Psalm 139:23-24] Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

[Joshua 1:9] Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.

Monday, June 27, 2011

coffee table bench

Since I have moved into my cottage, I am just in love with decorating it. 

Here's a picture of a living room. I love the colors and the coffee table bench....hmmm maybe a project for me and my dad? :)



Saturday, June 25, 2011

tortellini & tomato salad

YUM! I'm totally going to try this recipe. It look delicious.



What's your favorite recipe? Comment below and add your favorite recipe to share with other readers.

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Singles post

I love reading other people's blogs. I get great ideas and enjoy reading about their lives. It's interesting - it's like a window into someone's life.

I thought this was a really interesting blog post from a blogger I haven't caught up with in awhile. It's about connecting singles with other singles via blogs. Different and cute.

I invite you all to check it out. Spread the word, if you choose. It looks fun and I might give it a try (I have some single friends). :)

Show Us Your Singles!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Boundaries

I read this blog post this morning and thought to myself, "Wow, that's a great idea." It is about a married couple who established boundaries for their relationship starting back to when they were dating and still maintain them in their marriage.

Their boundaries: They do not eat a meal or ride in a car one-on-one with a member of the opposite sex.

While this couple's boundaries might seem ridiculous or sound crazy to some people, they don't to me. I have known marriages to fall apart because there were no boundaries, experiencing this personally. This is why many people, both men and women, have trust issues. It is not about what appears to be the case on the outside:  crazy, absurd trust issues, it is about something deeper than that....respect and love for your significant other (married or not).

It might seem harmless or innocent, but often times that is how affairs start. An innocent coffee meeting or car ride to a conference, especially when they happen regularly. Affairs often start emotionally and then become physical. Both are extremely hurtful and disrespectful to your significant other.

Being conservative and setting boundaries in your relationship doesn't make you crazy or "restrict" your partner from "having a life outside of your relationship"....it's about respect. Your significant other shouldn't have outside relationships that walk the line of inappropriate. Put yourself in your partner's shoes....would he/she be ok with it? What would your kids think (if you have kids)? How will others perceive this "relationship" outside of your marriage with someone of the opposite sex? I know many people will argue, "I don't care what other people think," and that's fine, but I do. It is so humiliating when others know what's going on and you don't. It's not about being "insecure" in your relationship, it's about being confident and respectful of your relationship and your partner.

"But my significant other knows I love them." Sure they do, but actions speak louder than words.

Someone commented on this blogger's post asking what about mutual good friends or in-laws. I think that's ok, but it is up to the couple to draw their own boundaries. Look at Shania Twain's marriage....her best friend and her husband were having an affair.

I'm not saying that this couple's particular boundaries are for everyone, nor are setting boundaries. I just wanted to point out how effective having them can be in relationships and my personal opinions as to why.

To read the full blog post: Learning to be a wife

Monday, June 20, 2011

One amazing year with a wonderful man.



And...I'm spoiled. Love you Matthew!

All because two people fell in love....

I have shared some of the best memories with Matthew over the last year. I feel so blessed to have him in my life. I am so happy to have found love again. God is good.






















Restaurant Review: Gaucho's

Last week I went to Gaucho's (a Brazilian steakhouse) here in Indiana with Matt and his parents. I had never been there before, so I thought I'd write my own little food critic "review" of it.

If you're a vegetarian or vegan, this is not the restaurant for you. My order....Feast of Meats. That's right, feast of meats. They bring around on big skewers, grilled steak, chicken, pork and turkey. I don't recall every type I had, but it was DELICIOUS.

The prices aren't bad, considering how fresh all the food is. Aside from my PLATTER of meat I seemed to be devouring, there was a salad bar as well.

My advice:

1. Come hungry (I ate a light lunch)
2. It's your birthday? You eat for FREE!

Here's the website...check it out!

http://gauchosvalpo.com/

Friday, June 17, 2011

Bookworm....

I love to read! Here are a few books I am adding to my summer reading list.....

Heaven is for Real




Run Like a Girl: How Strong Women Make Happy Lives




90 Minutes in Heaven




Chelsea Chelsea Bang Bang

Committed

(in the process of reading this one)

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

computer clean-up & bookmarks

So, I learned today at work that my laptop has a virus. And...they can't get rid of it. The plan is to re-image it tomorrow morning. IT told me to save anything I want saved, because everything will be wiped clean. I've had this computer for 2 years...there are several bookmarks on Firefox and miscellaneous stuff saved everywhere. It's crazy how much becomes built up over time. As I was going through all my bookmarked pages, I rediscovered some fun and interesting pages that I forgot about. I thought I'd share some of them.....

For all the married or soon-to-be married ladies (these were from my marriage research paper for grad school):

www.shejustgotmarried.com 

www.simplemarriage.net


www.engagedmarriage.com


www.lifegems4marriage.com


www.weddingbee.com


www.stylemepretty.com




Other interesting bookmarks....


www.holliesquotes.com


www.alexandrabarlow.wordpress.com


And for all my friends in higher education....an interesting blog about college counseling from the other side of the desk:

www.funnyhamlet.wordpress.com


What do you have bookmarked on your computer??

Happy birthday!

Monday was Matt's birthday. He spent last weekend in Chicago for his friend's bachelor party and Monday was his last day of school with the kiddos. So....not a lot of time to coordinate much.

We had dinner at home (steak, potatoes, and peppers...our favorite!). I already gave him his birthday present (super early), so I made him a 2 layer chocolate cake with vanilla frosting, per his request and gave him a sweet card before he left for school in the morning.

We are a little bit of homebodies, so a relaxing night at home is just what we needed and enjoyed. That's what I love about Matt. We can do absolutely nothing and have the best time. I don't feel like I have to "entertain" him and get all dressed up to go out every weekend. The bar is not really my scene. We enjoy each others company and the time we do get to spend with each other. We don't take each other for granted.

His birthday celebration will continue tomorrow though. We are going out to dinner with his parents for his birthday. I wanted to do that on Monday night, but his parents weren't available, and we wanted them there with us.

Matt's birthday present!


My obviously homemade birthday cake for Matt. 
In my defense, the cake and frosting were just not cooperating with each other, 
and...I've never been good at icing...no excuse there.

And a special birthday song for Matt....

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Under Construction

My blog is undergoing some changes. I have been exploring different looks for it, but I haven't had a lot of time to dedicate to making all the necessary changes. I am hoping to have it done in a week or two.

Saturday, June 11, 2011

new favorite...

I stumbled upon a fabulous young woman's blog, Kelly Hicks. You should check out her website!

http://kellyhicksdesign.com/

Her work is amazing and I just love her personality that shines in her blog.

I enjoy getting inspiration from other blogs.

Pretty DIY wreath project

I really want to try this! If I do, I will post my results/story.

Check it out!

http://kellyhicksdesign.com/2011/04/diy-ruffle-wreath/

Friday, June 10, 2011

homesick

This week I've felt really homesick. I don't know why. I've just felt "off" this week. I really miss my family. I miss being able to go shopping and plant flowers with my mom....getting coffee with my best friend, Brooke....going to the lake with friends.....and hanging out with my brothers. It's just been a "down" kind of week. I hope I can shake whatever I have going on soon. I'll see my family 4th of July weekend AND for my niece's birthday! 2 weekends with my family is totally what I need right now.

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Lead Me

I found this on another blog and fell in love with this song.

With all the weddings, engagements, anniversaries, and baby announcements this season, I think this song can apply to any type of relationship...married, engaged or dating. Everyone needs someone to lead them and be willing to fight for their relationship.

No one can do life alone. God created us to share our lives with someone...to have a partner. Finding that special person to do life with is a precious and amazing thing.



I look around and see my wonderful life
Almost perfect from the outside
In picture frames, I see my beautiful wife
Always smiling, but on the inside

Oh, I can hear her saying

Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, but what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes
They're just children from the outside
I'm working hard, I tell myself they'll be fine
They're independent, but on the inside

Oh, I can hear them saying

Lead me with strong hands
Stand up when I can't
Don't leave me hungry for love
Chasing dreams, what about us?

Show me you're willing to fight
That I'm still the love of your life
I know we call this our home
But I still feel alone

So Father, give me the strength
To be everything I'm called to be
Oh Father, show me the way
To lead them

Won't You lead me?

To lead them with strong hands
To stand up when they can't
Don't want to leave them hungry for love
Chasing things that I could give up

I'll show them I'm willing to fight
And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home
Lead me 'cause I can't do this alone

Father, lead me 'cause I can't do this alone

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

workout update

I had said awhile back that my goal was to start working out regularly again. I am happy to report that I have been on track with that. I am feeling better than ever. It started slow, but better to start slow than to push myself too hard in one day and be too sore to return the rest of the week. I see people do this to themselves all the time. While I am not back to running my 6 miles, I have been doing a short 45-60 minute workout at least 3 times a week.

Cardio:
I have done 1-3 miles either on the treadmill, elliptical or bike first...about 10-15 minutes of cardio. Then arms, legs and abs. I get bored easily, so I like to mix it up. I hope to soon begin doing 10 minutes running, 10 minutes on the elliptical and then 10 minutes on the bike. That makes for a great cardio combo and all in 30 minutes working different muscles in multiple ways.

Arms:
I like to use free weights for my arms. I don't want to have string bean or Olive Oil arms...I prefer to have a little shape to them. Here's one of my favorite arm machines....

Abs:
I LOVE the ab/exercise ball! I hate doing crunches on the floor - it hurts my back, so I prefer the ab ball. There are a variety of different exercises you can do with it.









My favorite ab "machine"....the captain's chair!


Legs:
I took a body sculpting class last year and I fell in love with the band. It's a great glute workout.


I know some people prefer to workout at home, but not me. I have to be in a gym environment. It's a great way to pick-up new workout ideas. I hate getting stuck in a rut doing the same exercises. At home, I get too distracted...cleaning, the TV, the computer, etc. At the gym, I get into the zone and can focus better. My motivations....to be healthy, my brothers in the military and the beach. Happy exercising!

Monday, June 6, 2011

meaningful words & numbers...

Love love love these ideas....check 'em out! I'm totally a DIY-er at heart. I get it from my mama. :)

http://jaimelyn11.blogspot.com/2011/05/my-up-cycled-teal-top-table-some.html

http://jaimelyn11.blogspot.com/2011/06/my-up-cycled-dining-room-table.html

new favorite recipe...

 Mexican Chicken


INGREDIENTS:
3-4 boneless chicken breasts
1 can cream of chicken
1 can cream of mushroom
1 can of rotel
2-3 cups of shredded cheese (cheddar or whatever you'd like)

DIRECTIONS:
boil 3-4 boneless chicken breasts
cut into small bite-size pieces

mix cooked chicken with 1 can cream of chicken, 1 can of cream of mushroom, 1 can of rotel.

place 4-5 small tortilla shells (I used flour shells, but corn works too) into a baking pan/dish. I used a 9x13 pan.

put chicken mixture on top of tortilla shells.

sprinkle shredded cheddar or Mexican shredded cheese on top
bake at 350 for 30 minutes.

I put a little cayenne pepper in my chicken mixture, because I like a little kick. We made 3 chicken breasts and it was more than enough for just 2. Great recipe for a potluck or family function or just because. :):)

Really easy and delicious! My favorite recipe. Enjoy!

Thursday, June 2, 2011

Happy endings are not for cowards

I read this blogger's post, Learning to be a Wife, today and I wanted to share. She has a very good message. Read on... 

 

Wednesday, June 1, 2011


Happy.

I've been reading books by Jill A. Davis and I stumbled upon a quote I really love: "Happy Endings are not for cowards." It reminded me of Garth's best man's speech. He toasted Garth for being brave enough to take the step to marry me.
I found that interesting because I never thought of it that way. Being brave. I was in love and knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this man. But it was brave. We took a leap of faith. We didn't know what hardships would come our way. And they will come our way. But we knew we wanted to walk through life together and fight the good fight.
My parents just celebrated 30 years. They chose to make it work though I'm sure life wasn't always roses. When over 50% of American couples are divorcing, they chose to stick it out. Cowards? I don't think so.
We have to fight for what we want. We have to work at our marriage. We have to work at our bodies to keep them in good shape. We have to work at our relationship with God because living His way does not come all that naturally. To write our happy endings takes work. Strength. Tears. Laughs. It is not for cowards. 

self reflection

Another blogger posted about this, so I thought I'd do a little self-reflection today too...

Do you ever have those moments in your life that you think, "I never would have imagined myself doing ____." Or, "Is this really my life?"

I graduated from college 6 years ago....high school 10 years ago. Wow!

1. I live out of state....meaning, not in Michigan anymore.I never would have thought I'd move to Indiana....the Hoosier state...of all places. 

2. I love my job! I have been at my current job in higher education for almost 5 years and I'm still loving it. I never set out to work in higher ed, it just kind of happened. I am so thankful.

3. I'm an Aunt and Godmother!  I feel so blessed to have such a large, extended family and siblings who I'm extremely close with. With twin brothers, 3 step-brothers and a step-sister, I have become an Aunt (2 nieces and 2 nephews!) and I am proud to be my niece, Ella's Godmother.
4. I LOVE to cook. I loved helping my grandma make homemade noodles when I was growing up and watching my mom whip up an amazing meal with very little for a family of 5. I was never really taught how to cook....it has been more of a trial & error experience.
5. I'm a runner. I never thought I'd say I enjoy running, but I do. I used to HATE having to run the mile for gym class. Now, I can run up to 6 miles. Some day, I'll run a half-marathon.
6. I'm a homebody. I will choose staying at home, cooking dinner with a few friends and enjoying a glass of wine ANY NIGHT over going out to a bar, etc.
7. I attend a Church. I wasn't raised in the church. Now I am happy to have found a Church I can call home. I am actively involved as a volunteer and look forward to Sunday services and meeting with my Community Group for Bible study every week.
8. I was married. Growing up, I told myself, I'd never get divorced. Well, life happens and there are some things beyond your control.I have grown and learned so much about myself since then.
9. I'm almost done with my Masters degree! I am so excited! It was something I had thought about doing for years, but wasn't sure if it was going to happen. I will walk in May 2012.
10. Blind date love....I never thought being set-up with someone by a friend would actually work out, let alone grow & become love. I am so happy it has. I enjoy each day with him.

11. High Heel Pro! In high school and college, I was not very good at walking in high heels. Now, I wear them every day....can walk backwards in them, dance, and even chase after my dog in them. 

12. OMW! Y'all wanna a soda? Yes, I now say things like "y'all" and "soda" and "oh my word!" on a regular basis. I've been saying them for years. It's the Southerner in me that wants to come out. :)

What about you? Anything about your adult self that surprises you?