Cheaters Never Prosper

I hate cheaters.

I know hate is a strong word, but cheating is one thing I will not tolerate. I don't get it. I don't mean the kind of people who cheat on diets or workouts. I mean people who cheat on their significant others.

Some people debate about what constitutes as cheating. To me, it is anything that is suggestive, flirtatious, hurtful to your significant other and family, anything questionable. If you have to ask yourself "is this okay to be doing?" then it is probably wrong. Stop. It.

I have witnessed the pain it causes people and even experienced it myself. It is something I would never wish upon anyone. Not even to those who have done me wrong.

Why do people cheat? Why do they think the grass is greener? It's not. They eventually learn, but it's usually a lesson too late. Or is it too late?

Can a cheater change? I would like to think so, but they have to WANT to change. And I don't mean they simply say they want to, but they have to feel and live that want to change. Cheaters have to change their lifestyle completely in order to truly change.



The moment you choose to put yourself in a situation that is questionable, you have started cheating. I know you might be thinking, No way! That's crazy! Is it?

Cheating always starts off as something so innocent. A friendly lift home....a drink after work....a deep conversation over coffee/lunch....a hug.

When you find yourself complaining to someone else, especially of the opposite sex, about your marriage or relationship, you are crossing the line. Why ever would you want to talk poorly of your spouse? Why would you want to put them down? Call them crazy? Or super jealous? Theyobviously have a reason to be if you are doing what you're doing and they are calling you out on it. Own it. Of course, if there is abuse involved, that's a different story. But if you're just griping about your spouse not cleaning up after themselves or nagging you all the time to do something, you are playing with fire.You are seeking attention from someone else.

If you don't remember my post from fall 2011, a letter to a hero who has let me down, you can read it here: "Dear B..." Writing that blog post was one of the hardest things I have done. I wrote it with tears rolling down my cheeks. I am sure he has read it. We haven't exchanged many words since then. It still breaks my heart to this day.

The choices you make not only affect you, but those around you. Remember that the next time you consider an innocent cup of coffee with someone of the opposite sex or who isn't your significant other.

Here's another blog post about the boundaries this couple made....Learning To Be A Wife