How to blow your marriage....

This guy, Dan, from, Single Dad Laughing, wrote an awesome blog post about marriage advice. Divorced twice doesn't mean he doesn't know what NOT TO DO in a marriage.

Funny how people meet a divorced person and automatically think the worst.....

1. They are marriage-challenged
2. It was their fault it ended
3. They are out to prey on married men/women
4. They cannot be trusted
5. They're damaged goods
6. They're on the rebound

And boy, does the list go on!

Just because someone is divorced doesn't mean they don't know anything about marriage or what it takes to make one work. If anything, they know more, because they've experienced what can go wrong and can grow from that. This can make them an even better husband or wife for the next person. Bet you didn't think about that, huh?

Here's Dan's quick list (his blog goes into far more detail about each one - you should read it!):

1. Don't stop holding her hand
2. Don't stop trying to be attractive
3. Don't always point out her weaknesses
4. Don't stop cooking for her
5. Don't yell at your spouse
6. Don't call names
7. Don't be stingy with your money
8. Don't argue in front of the kids
9. Don't encourage each other to stop working out
10. Don't poop with the bathroom door open
11. Don't stop kissing her
12. Don't stop having fun together
13. Don't pressure each other
14. Don't label each other with negative labels
15. Don't skip out on things that are important to her
16. Don't emotionally distance yourself after a fight

I would also like to add some from my own experience:

1. Don't put your spouse down in front of others
2. Don't choose whether or not you're going to spend time with her based on if her plans are better than your friends' plans
3. Don't just say you love them, SHOW it
4. Don't forget about sex after the honeymoon
5. Don't put him in the middle of you and his mother (or someone like that)
6. Don't stop dating each other - establish a day for date night
7. Don't talk to someone of the opposite sex about your marriage problems - TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE
8. Don't put yourself in situations with someone of the opposite sex that walk the line of right and wrong
9. Don't use sex as a bargaining tool
10. Don't stop asking "how was your day?" and actually listening
11. Don't shrug off her tears
12. Don't stop sweeping her off her feet
13. Don't stop being a team
14. Don't go to bed angry
15. Don't leave God out of your marriage
16. Don't let her give up on her dreams for yours

You can read Dan's full blog post here: Single Dad Laughing.